Rules That May Be Getting in Your Way

This post is going to be different than our other posts. We have both worked on this post together and it actually came down to us collecting the information on what specific beliefs or rules people (and even ourselves) tend to hold on to that don’t always serve them and sometimes even hold them back. The goal of this post is to help you identify these beliefs or rules and release them.


“Others can’t love me unless I love myself first.”

This is probably one of the most common ones we have seen. While there is nothing wrong with self-love, there is also no need to create a limiting belief related to it. There are plenty of different definitions of what self-love is and what it represents. We both agree that self-love is not an emotion, it’s more about the way you treat yourself in life. Your inner conversations, your determination in life, your desire to explore and accept who you truly are, they are all parts of self-love.

Most people who talk about loving yourself before others can love you include only the emotional part into this. Self-love is much more than that. You don’t have to literally be in love with yourself in order to take care of yourself. However, most of this belief comes from the fact that some people think that the world is literally reflecting back their emotions, not their beliefs. As we know, Neville teaches that feeling is the secret but the feeling that he talks about is the feeling of naturalness. It’s the feeling of knowing. Some also describe it as a feeling of conviction or unwavering faith.

So to sum it up, you do not have to literally love yourself in order to get something. You are making rules in your own reality. Think about what self-love means to you. Would you be here, learning about the Law if you would have given up on yourself?


“You need to let go of your desire.”

One of the most common beliefs that we see among the people that are transitioning from the general LoA to Neville’s teachings is that they have to let go or else they can’t have their desire. Most of them think that this means that they are supposed to give up on their desire. There is all this talk about energy and vibrations. It has nothing to do with Neville’s teachings, though. Neville keeps it very simple and that’s why most of us gravitated towards him.

When it comes to Neville, the only letting go we go through is letting go of the old story. Neville teaches us to live in the end. What this means is that we have to release this old story, or the old man, that is holding us back. You don’t have to forget your desire. All you have to do is accept is as yours and go about your way. In some cases this will indeed include forgetting about it temporarily but that’s mainly because you are so busy elsewhere that you don’t even have the time to think about this desire, or at least not think about it from the state of lack. Think of anything you own right now. Think of the fact that you are employed. You don’t think about your work 24/7. You have your job, it’s going to be there tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that and the day after that and the day after that… And however long you decide to stay there. It’s a fact, it’s a done deal and that’s why you don’t worry about it at all.

We would also like to add that “getting what you focus on” is very simple as well and fits well with states. Getting what you are focused on doesn’t mean that you have to think about it 24/7. It means that you focus on it while in state akin to sleep or whatever other technique you use. You focus on it being the way you want it to be and after that you naturally drop it because you have changed its state. Or, better to say, you have changed your state, relative to the thing you are observing. You see, it’s not about focusing on it 24/7. It’s about seeing it the way you want it to be when you do think about it.

So no, letting go of a desire isn’t the same as giving up on a desire. It’s about letting go of the old story. The most beautiful thing about it is that it’s actually done naturally once you really get into that feeling of the wish fulfilled. This is the part of the process that you don’t have to worry about at all. Neville also calls it Sabbath.


“If it’s meant to be…”

Most of us believed in things such as destiny before we came across Neville’s teachings. However, this is one of those beliefs that you want to leave behind once you start creating your own life or else you will always go back to wondering if something is meant for you, if you should give up on something, if you are wasting your time and other things that come with the belief in destiny.

In Neville’s words:

“The most remarkable feature of man’s future is its flexibility. The future, although prepared in advance in every detail, has several outcomes. We have at every moment of our lives the choice before us which of several futures we will have.”

Remain Faithful to Your Idea, Neville Goddard

The creation is finished. With this being said, you still choose between infinite possibilities. There is no destiny guiding you towards a certain purpose in life. You, yourself, decide on your purpose. You, yourself, decide what your destiny is.


“Your interpretation is wrong” or “You are doing it wrong”

This is something that could be debated but neither one of us believes that you can go wrong when it comes to the Law. The Law is the Law, it cannot be changed. However, the processes through which you go and beliefs that you have about creating/manifesting are entirely up to you. Look at the following sentence.

“If you want to achieve something in life, you must first believe in your ability to create.”

This sentence can be interpreted in many different ways. For the sake of this post, we will give you two possible interpretations:

  1. You must have the confidence that the actions that you are taking are leading you to your result.
  2. You must have the confidence in your ability to believe a thing into being.

Everybody starts at a different level. The wonderful thing about anything in this world is that you can experience it subjectively. To somebody who is unfamiliar with the Law, the first explanation would sound right. To somebody who is familiar with the Law, the second explanation would make more sense.

Another part of the process includes aligning with your desired reality. You can assume that you have to do techniques every day until the thing comes into your life, you can assume that you can do the technique one time or you can assume that you don’t have to do any techniques at all because manifesting is so easy for you that you are able to appropriate a certain new state of consciousness in a matter of seconds and never look back at your old state. These are just some rules that you can create for yourself. None of these rule are wrong.

The only limitation here is believing that you can go wrong about it. You have been doing this your entire life. You don’t have to follow someone else’s way of manifesting or even their interpretations to the T. Go with what resonates with you. At the end of the day, it comes down to exactly that.


“You need to literally ignore your current reality.”

Some people will tell you that you need to completely ignore your current reality. Some take it as far as to say that you shouldn’t interact with it at all. The current reality is being “demonized” in a way that creates more fear and more fear means more focusing on the thing, in the state in which you do not want it to be.

Let’s say your pet gets hurt. Are you going to ignore it and let them suffer, or are you going to take them to the vet? We believe that most of us would take our pets to the vet and go from there. You don’t have to ignore the fact that they are hurt right now. Help them out any way you can but know that this is not the end. They won’t be hurt forever. They will recover.

Having faith in your actions is something that isn’t spoken about a lot either, except when it comes to the techniques. When you think about it, you wouldn’t take a certain action if you didn’t associate it with a certain outcome. A very simple example is picking up your phone when it’s ringing because you are waiting for the delivery guy to call you and tell you to come out and pay for your pizza. This whole situation consists of many beliefs that are leading to many different actions and we take them so naturally that we don’t even think about it anymore.

A recent example of this would be the situation with the coronavirus. We have noticed that many people in the community would talk about ignoring the current situation, not acknowledging it, not watching the news etc. There is nothing wrong with this approach if it works for you. What we do want you to consider is this: are you ignoring the news because you are afraid of finding out that the coronavirus is still there?

Another example is checking your SP’s social media. If you are currently avoiding this, why are you doing that? Are you doing it because it helps you live in the end or are you doing it because you are afraid of what you may see?

The point here is that this fear of finding out that coronavirus is still spreading or that your SP may have posted something you won’t like is the exact opposite of what you want. You may actually be telling yourself, “If I read the news and the coronavirus is still spreading, my manifestation isn’t working” or, “If I check my SP’s social media and he posted something I don’t like, it means he doesn’t love me anymore.” It’s these fears that cause us to create even more stories that do not serve us.

If this is the reason you are “ignoring your reality”, stop it. Face it. Release the emotions, the fears, the frustrations. Know that even if you do discover something opposite of your wish fulfilled, it doesn’t mean that your desire will never be fulfilled. Current circumstances are just a manifestation of your assumptions that haven’t been changed yet. There is nothing to be afraid of.

This, of course, does not apply to the people for whom this approach actually works. We both tried it out before and it did work but when you are using it because you are afraid of your current circumstances or because you are afraid of “doing it wrong”, then it could be a sign that you are suppressing something or creating a rule that says that you can only do this one way or you are doing it wrong. In that case, this can be quite limiting.


You need to use the techniques.

Beginners often confuse the techniques with the actual cause of the manifestation. The cause of a manifestation is always spiritual. It is always within you. Remember that the only way something can exist in your reality is if you are conscious of it. The way to appropriate something in your consciousness is through different techniques. With that being said, it is clear that techniques are not necessary but they are useful. The reason they are not necessary is because you can change your state without them but if you need them to do so, then by all means, use them.

No matter if you are a beginner or an advanced manifester, it is always important to remember that the techniques are there to help us catch the feeling of the wish fulfilled. That is the extent of their usefulness. It’s not the technique that brings the thing to pass. It’s you. You are the operant power and once you claim something as yours, whether it’s by using a technique or not, this becomes the cause for the effects seen in the physical world.

Another thing we’d like to mention is that even if you are a super advanced manifester, there is no shame in using the techniques. Many of us will say things such as, “Techniques don’t matter” or, “You don’t even need the techniques because you have been manifesting your entire life.” The difference here is that you were manifesting unconsciously. You weren’t very disciplined. That’s why you may have manifested a mess but you manifested it nonetheless. Now that you are aware of conscious manifesting, you can build that discipline with techniques and there is never anything wrong with using the techniques.


“If a psychic is legit…”

Quite an unusual one and not often mentioned in the Neville community is the belief that a psychic could or could not be legit. If they are legit, they can read your current state. If they are not legit, they cannot. There isn’t really much to say about this except that if you do believe in psychics, you should be aware that you are the one that is deciding whether a psychic is legit or not. It’s not up to them as they are simply you pushed out.

Psychics aren’t really regarded with a lot of love in this community because they tend to be associated with giving your power away. You are your own best psychic! And yes, they are able to “read your energy” and tell you things you already know if you give them that power. Saying that one psychic is legit for one reason and another one is not for another reason is simply you making rules in your reality. It’s not about them, it’s about you. It’s about what you are assuming about a specific psychic, or even a specific psychic ability. You can’t say, “If a psychic is legit” when you are the one deciding if they are or not.


“You should go no contact because they have to miss you.”

One of the most confusing limiting beliefs is the one about no contact. You will always find somebody who will tell you that you should go no contact so that your SP can miss you and reach out to you. If you believe that to be the truth, that is fine. Keep in mind that it’s not this technique that is going to manifest them contacting you in that case. It’s actually your belief that if you go no contact they have to contact you because they will miss you.

However, going no contact should always be about you and not them. If you need a break or you need to walk away from all the things that trigger you to go back to your old ways, and you do believe that going no contact will help you with that, then by all means, do what you have to do. But, if you are doing it only because you want the other person to miss you, think twice about it. Is focusing on them missing you helping you live in the end?

Going no contact isn’t a rule. There is still this prevalent belief that if you keep in touch with your SP, you are somehow delaying the process or something like that. When you think about it, it’s quite the opposite. You are actually seeing the feedback from this person in real-time. If you can’t handle that and you need to take a step back, that is your decision. The main point here is: you don’t have to go no contact just because somebody else told you to.


“Every single thought creates.”

Last but not least in this post is this belief that every single thought creates. We want to make this a bit more clear. It’s not that every single thought will be expressed on the screen of space. Those that you do accept, those that are dominant, those are the ones that will be expressed.

You may be thinking now, “But fleeting thoughts create as well!” And you are absolutely right, they do. However, if you pay closer attention to the fleeting thoughts, you will notice that they are most likely already very aligned with where you are, with your assumptions, with your beliefs.

The reason this one is being brought up, though, is because the belief that every single thought must be expressed often creates fear in those who believe this. It creates a mindset of, “I need to control every single thought I have or else…” Irony about it is that if you do assume that every single thought you have must somehow be expressed, you will manifest just that. This is why a “safer” option is to take control of your thoughts but not by constantly observing and rearranging them but by creating rules such as, “Only my dominant thoughts create.” In that case, if you are thinking about how faithful your boyfriend is and you have one thought that implies that he may be cheating, you simply disregard that thought. It’s a silly thought. Your boyfriend is you pushed out and he would never do that to you.


What kind of limiting beliefs have you come across or overcame on your journey? Share them with us and we may talk a bit more about them in another post! The goal of posts like these is to help you free yourself. Sometimes we have to examine the rules that we are creating for ourselves as they may no longer serve us.

If you would like us to write more posts like these, let us know. It takes a while to write it all down but we have had an interesting time discussing these things and wouldn’t mind doing it again!

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