“I Remember When”: Getting Rid of a Third Party, Success Story
Recently, Viktoria posted her success story about getting her person back. In that post she mentioned that we will be posting some more success stories, related to different areas of our lives. Here is the story of how I got rid of a third party.
I have told this story before on Reddit but I never went into details about it. I won’t go into too much detail in this post either, as far as the old story goes. I will, however, tell you how I did what I did and got the results.
When I first found out about conscious manifesting, it was because I wanted to get my boyfriend back. I was not in the best spot and I had just manifested a third party. The way I manifested her was by thinking that sooner or later he is going to start dating somebody else, now that we’ve broken up. I was heartbroken but I had no idea that it was me who created this until I came across a person, who in the meantime became one of my best friends, who introduced me to Neville.
I started reading Neville and doing the work right away. I wanted to make things work out as quickly as possible. However, what I didn’t do was ignore the third party. My person and I would get into arguments because I was so insecure and couldn’t stand the thought of him spending time with somebody else.
I always had a belief that he would confide in me about anything and all of a sudden, he was telling me exactly what they were doing, where they were going and other information that hurt me. During that time, I did not realize that this belief that he is always telling me stuff is hurting me.
Now, I was in a spot in my life where I didn’t really know what to do, in regards to my career. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. I was freshly out of university, had no experience whatsoever and thought the only way for me to work with my degree and be paid for it generously was to move to another country, which is known in Europe for thriving when it comes to my field of “expertise”.
I asked my person if he wanted to go with me. He agreed and we made plans but the third party was still there which made it even more awkward. He would say things like, “Well, we can’t sleep in the same room, you know”. It made sense because I wouldn’t want to sleep in the same room with him if I was involved with somebody else either. But because it hurt me, I unknowingly revised it. I didn’t know about mental diet back then. I thought SATS were the only way and since I was still a newbie, I didn’t really pay attention to my inner conversations. However, whenever he would bring up something like this, I would declare in my head that that’s not how it’s going to work, that he has no idea what he’s talking about and that I will have it my way. In this case, I remember saying to myself, “No, silly, we are sleeping on the same bed if I so want, and you will be my boyfriend by then anyway so it will feel natural for you.”
The time was drawing near and the story about the third party was still alive in my head. I had about two weeks left to “resolve” this issue. I started doing some meditations but then the same friend who taught me about Neville told me that the best way to get rid of anyone is to ignore them. She sent me a video about the “I remember when” technique. I swear by this technique to this day because it really felt like magic in that moment and helped me get through so much.
My person and I got close again after I did those meditations. The meditations were focused on the third party going away with somebody who is a better partner for her. During this time, he told me that she is acting distant and I knew it was working.
But then, I stopped doing the meditations and they got close again. This is where I finally started using the, “I remember when” technique. I would tell myself that I remember when I was worried about this third party but now she is off with someone else and my person is with me again. I remember telling my friend a few days later that my entire life right now, all of the circumstances that I was in, felt like a distant past. It’s like I was detached from it. Like I was watching a movie play out in front of me but it felt like it happened years ago and I was fine already, with my person.
I didn’t do this technique all day long. I would repeat my “affirmation” whenever I would think about my person, assuring myself that everything is already fine. When I caught the feeling that I described, I held on to it. I did not let it go. And why would I? It felt better to feel like everything in front of me was nothing but the past and that I already know the outcome of it all.
I remember that I spent 2 or 3 days with that feeling. Then, one day, he told me he was going out. I was tired and all of a sudden this question came out of nowhere: is he going with the third party? My next thought was: he didn’t mention her in days. He is going alone. With that in mind, I went to sleep.
I woke up a few hours later to him sending me a bunch of messages one after another, telling me that he decided that he can’t be with this girl. I was over the moon! And all it took was just a few days of “I remembering when” my current circumstances seemed like a big deal and reminding myself that in the end it all worked out for the two of us, the way I wanted it, and then another 2 or 3 days of enjoying that feeling.
Now, I am not saying that you have to constantly sustain the feeling of the wish fulfilled. I have found that that is not a requirement at all. I didn’t feel like that the entire day either! I had other things to do. I wasn’t thinking about him every second of the day, although it did seem that way sometimes. However, when I did think about him, this feeling would come up and I held on to it because I enjoyed it and because I knew that that is what I want to feel, and not those crappy emotions and doubts that I had before I found this feeling inside me.
It took around a month altogether. If I only count the time during which I used the “I remember when” technique, it took me around 5 or 6 days. See how fast you can get the results if you just persist? Honestly, once I caught the feeling that I mentioned, I stopped thinking about the third party altogether. She was not important. She was just… Past. She wasn’t in my present because everything had worked out for me and my person there.
This is why I always recommend this technique to those who are struggling with thoughts about the third party. If you would just take away the importance and know in your heart that your current circumstances do not matter because you have already experienced the end in your imagination and in that end everything worked out for you and your SP, you would get rid of any and all obstacles in a very short amount of time. Think about it: are you bringing up the thing that happened to you years ago, when you were in high school, again and again, every day, replaying the same thing, basing your judgment of your seeming future on this seeming past event? I bet you aren’t. You are a different person now. You are not a teenager and you know better. That is the feeling I managed to achieve with the “I remember when” technique.
Try it out. Remember when things weren’t ideal but now you are living your dream life. Everything worked out for the best.
P.S. Guess what! The room situation worked out the way I wanted it to work out. At one point he even said there is no way we are getting separate beds. So yeah! Remain faithful to your imaginal act. It always works.