My Success Story: How I Got My Person Back
We know everybody loves success stories. These next few articles will be success stories from different areas of our lives. The first story I want to share with you is the one about how I got my boyfriend back. I already posted this on Reddit, so a big chunk of it is copied from there. I am dividing the story into parts and adding some updates to where we currently are as a couple!
A couple of years ago I’ve met somebody very special to me. He was all I ever wanted in a guy, plus he was crazy about me. It started very naturally. I didn’t consciously manifest this part but I was at the point in life where I was absolutely confident and knew my worth.
We dated for a year before breaking up. It started out perfectly but my insecurities eventually started showing up, as well as my negative beliefs about relationships. They didn’t start showing up right away. There was a delay, of course. In my experience bridges of incidents take a while but as with any other thing the new thoughts started showing up too.
I won’t go into detail. It doesn’t matter. Suffice it to say that my insecurities took a toll on both of us and he left me. In the beginning I couldn’t let him go. I needed him in my life. I was using him as my reassurance against my insecurities. I was taking things way too seriously and wasn’t having any fun at all, trust me. Iver-analyzing everything he was saying became my new hobby after the breakup.
Then… I found someone else. My best friend knew I wasn’t over my SP and he told me what I had already known… That this is a rebound. Nothing wrong with that but we both knew whom I really love. I told my SP about it and he was curious to know who it was, wished me luck, said he knows it must be someone special because I like them. He was super sweet just like i thought he would be.
I didn’t know about Neville yet but now I know why he reacted like that. That second relationship came and went in a few weeks. I couldn’t get my SP off my mind and I didn’t want to hurt this other person. When the breakup happened, he told me he always felt like there was someone else. I didn’t tell him anything about my SP, just that there was nobody else physically. I left it at that.
This is when I started realizing that I have a burning desire to reconcile with my person and I can’t keep suppressing it. That’s when I came across LOA and eventually also Neville.
I started using SATS and my SP started flirting with me again and being sweet. But… My insecurities were still there. Whenever things started going well for us and it looked like we were getting back together, my insecurities got in the way. My thoughts were not aligned with my end result. It didn’t help much that I became obsessed with looking for different techniques all the time, success stories, motivational posts on forums etc… I went from being a doer to being a hearer! Nothing moved forward in months thanks to that… In fact it got even worse. we stopped talking and he started dating somebody new. That really discouraged me. Everything I thought I knew, everything Neville teaches… It all seemed like lies. The problem was that I was actually familiar with all the theory but wasn’t doing any testing at that point or changed my thinking. My faith was shaken.
One day I woke up completely devastated. I knew that I needed to stop thinking about the third party. I was hurting myself. Being a victim to my own mind. Then, I messaged a friend who is a great manifester and she told me:
“Disciplining your mind is a small price to pay to get the life you want but you either pay it or you continue wallowing in the negativity that will manifest from focusing on what you don’t want!”
I don’t know why but this was that one sentence that made me change my way of playing this game. She was right. I created negativity and instead of turning my focus to something else, I kept learning and exploring the forums instead of doing the work that needed to be done in order to change the things around!
I eventually started testing again but slowly. I started manifesting things for myself:
- fixing a friendship,
- earning more money,
- becoming more independent,
- making my skin healthy again,
- free shopping spree because i couldn’t be satisfied with a free coffee at that point, ha,
- my favorite sport teams winning,
- seeing a sport game live,
- going to a concert for the first time in my life.
But it wasn’t enough! Yes, my faith came back. None of these things was a coincidence. In fact there is no such thing as a coincidence! But i had to beat my insecurities to the ground. I started working on those.
I became more aware of my thoughts. Whenever I had an insecurity I told myself: “Why am i feeling this way? I am such a powerful being! It makes no sense to feel this way. Everything is myself pushed out. I don’t wanna feel this way. Go away. I don’t need this in my life now!”
I did the same thing when it came to my insecurities about my relationship. I was completely focused on myself for about 3 weeks. Mental diet is the “technique” that made it work for me. It’s more of a lifestyle than a technique though!
Remember I said I couldn’t stop thinking about the third party? All thoughts of her were gone. I knew she doesn’t matter. I manifested her. Well she was just like a negative thought now! Go away third party! I don’t need you in my life! I learned my lesson about letting my insecurities get the best of me. Now get the hell out! Anyway I only thought this maybe a few times and then I didn’t have to anymore.
It’s so funny to think how they teach us that ignoring problems doesn’t make them disappear! That’s exactly what it does when it comes to people we don’t want in our lives!
Fast forward, he contacted me when I was out and about, focusing on becoming a better version of myself, for myself. He asked me if he could call me. My heart skipped a beat but I knew I had done the work.
There are no possibilities unless you let your anxiety create them and in this case I only allowed one possibility to exist: this is the next step to the reconciliation. Nothing else. We talked and he told me all the things I wanted to hear. He told me he missed me and he is sorry that he didn’t give me another chance. He said he knows I’ve changed. The rest is history. It’s been a few weeks now and we are happier than ever. (At the time of writing this: https://www.reddit.com/r/nevillegoddardsp/comments/c2ui6o/how_i_got_my_sp/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
THE LESSONS I’VE LEARNED FROM THIS EXPERIENCE
If there is one thing I wish everybody would understand is that this journey is about you. You can rest with faith knowing that your thoughts have been heard. Like Jesus said. Your faith has saved you. Go in peace. Even though I have my person back my number one goal is still bettering myself. In the meantime I always remember he is me pushed out. I don’t need to worry about him leaving or hurting me. I only need to keep my mental diet going. It’s so easy now. It felt like work when I first started it but I persisted and now I am being rewarded for it. It’s the best feeling in the world.
Work on yourself because you want to become a better person, and not because you want to attract someone. They will come back. They always do. Don’t date others because you think that will bring your SP back and don’t force yourself to let go. Just focus on yourself.
I see some people on Reddit asking a thousand similar questions… Don’t you see the answers are in front of you? Look at your world! Become aware of your thoughts! Do you see the correlation? Nothing exists that wasn’t first imagined by you. Bridge of incidents could be an exception to this because we never know what will happen in order for us to get our desires but we know what we want and that is all that matters. We don’t imagine us solving the problem, we imagine the problem not existing anymore.
If you are just sitting here wondering which technique will work instantly, wondering if the time you’ve been separated for matters, and you are looking for the answers to the same or similar questions or answers for every little step of the way, comparing your story to other’s success stories, do yourself a favor and get off the internet. Get off the internet! You are keeping yourself stuck if you are doing these things. You are a hearer, not a doer. If you know the basics of manifesting, you don’t have to keep learning indefinitely. There is no amount of knowledge you need to acquire before you can started consciously manifesting. You need to test it. Again and again and again and again and again.
You will find your own way of manifesting. You will fail too, of course, but there is a lesson in failure. See the difference in what you did when you succeeded and what you did when you failed. Learn from it. (Lifehack I learned in the meantime: The only way to fail is to give up.)
Most importantly stop repeating your old story! Take the responsibility! You created that negative story! Stop rehashing it for your own sake. Discipline your mind! Like my friend said, it’s a small price to pay to get the life that you want!
UPDATE ON MY RELATIONSHIP 6 MONTHS LATER
Many of you who read my story on Reddit ask me about updates and whether or not I managed to keep my relationship strong. I am happy to leave this short report here: Yes, I am still in a relationship with my SP. We have moved in together in November which I also manifested consciously. Besides this, we haven’t had any big arguments like we had in the past. He is a different person because I am as well. I worked on my confidence and continue to work on it. I view my relationship as a mirror of my inner world and my beliefs about not only my relationship but relationships in general. If I notice something that I do not like or something that I think could get in the way of my happiness, I eliminate it and replace it with something better.
I will always continue working on this relationship. He is my person. He is the reason I recognized my own power and the reason I keep working on myself and see it reflected in my entire world but especially in my relationship because he is the person I am closest to and the person that reflects things back to me instantly.
I leave you with this story hoping you have learned something from it and that it gives you a push to take the leap of faith. If you really love your person, it’s so worth it.